Chapter

What would you name this chapter of your life?

That’s the one question that I ask each and every guest on my podcast.(The Voices You Have Not Heard)

Out of 47 episodes, I’ve heard everything from Freedom to struggle. It’s important to name the chapters of our lives and use them as a roadmaps to see how far we’ve come.

2018 has brought me many chapters. I’ve had loss, freedom, sacrifice, peace, happiness, joy, loss.2, loss.3, daylight, more, silence, bare with me, you can’t be serious, this is not real life, oh my god, ain’t nobody got time for this, not again, not today, I can’t be responsible for that, I got this, I don’t got this, I bet I don’t, help, nope, this is that BS right here, I no longer care, really, I made it, chance, change, transition, listen, transform, I warned you and finally…. RESET.

RESET is about…

Restructuring your thoughts
Extracting the old thoughts
Stimulating the mind to think new thoughts
Equipping yourself for change
Transforming your life through every transition

So if you didn’t finish well in 2018, here are a few things to think about as you enter into 2019

1. Remember why you started. When you feel the feelings that are tied to your goal, your energy will shift to align with that goal.

2. Get clarity. Once you have clarity, you can lock it in. It’s important that you decide to hit your goal. It doesn’t matter how much doubt and fear you have, when you can see your end goal you can keep going. Your Pivots, detours, and scenic routes are planned for you to avoid major distractions. Trust the process.

3. Rewrite your vision. It’s important that you layout exactly how you want to execute your vision. There are many ways to accomplish this goal. It’s your job to be consistent and be aware of what you say and how you say it. Words are more important than your media outlet.

4. Take inventory of your pieces. Fragments and glimpses make up who we are. We have to be willing to take a look at what we already have. Taking inventory requires that we get silent and listen in the silence instead of controlling the silence. Turning your brain off and allowing your heart to speak will bring your pieces together and allow peace to resurface in your situation to see the bigger picture.

5. Look for reminders. Who are you when you’re focused? What does being focused feel and look like when you’re in your zone and doing meaningful and fulfilling things?

6. Redirect your focus. Inspiration can come from within us or outside of us. When it comes, act upon it. Everything won’t make sense right away, but you must follow your focus. These are the moments that will change the trajectory of our lives and lives of those around us.

Every chapter makes us who we are. Take time to reflect on the pages of your chapters as you move forward in life.

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

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Spillage

We are all designed to leak our gifts and talents. However, we often keep ourselves sealed up and that prevents others from experiencing the true essence of who we are.

We must realize that we are a costly contamination. Most people want to prevent contamination, but in this case, we must allow it to ooze out into the atmosphere and leave a residue that changes the lives of the people we come in contact with.

If we continue to stay sealed up and contain the spillage, our end result will only provide us with more closed doors and lack.

Our spillage is our demonstration in the earth and the missing link to someone elses problems.

It’s high time we empty ourselves into the atmosphere and allow our spillage to connect us to the next level of open doors.

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

Without Exception

Everyone starts at the beginning.  From the moment of release we are in a race. You and I had to beat out all the other potentials that were fighting to become at the same time. By the grace of God we made it and we’ve been winning races ever since.

Today is no different.

You’ve been released to blaze a trial that’s never been walked before. You aren’t the first trailblazer in the world. All the greats started right where you are.

Dazed, confused, and overwhelmed, yet filled with potential, power and possibilities. You’re not exempt.

If they did it, so can you!

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

Long Lead-In

So what happens when your comeback takes a detour?

You get ready for the long lead-in.

No one just arrives, but you have to decide that you’re going to arrive way before anyone sees the fruits of your labor.

There are no overnight successes. I know it appears that way when you see a breakout star or a new business pop on the scene. However, the preparation of the journey is unseen to the rest of the world.

The long lead-in that we don’t usually see often comes with great loss, traumatic events, financial turmoil, poverty and sometimes homelessness.

So if you’re in a state of frustration, overwhelm, or have found yourself stuck and grinding your wheels, I want you to know that this is your lead-in to something spectacular and extraordinary.

So stay the course and finish the journey. You are exactly where you’re suppose to be to arrive exactly where you’re destined to be.

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

Hype

Sometimes you have to be your own hype man. You have to remember what you promised yourself before you started listening to the voices of other people.

You know the place where you were when you decided that you were going to be in a class of your own…. untouchable, unstoppable and unmovable….the place where you’re the only person pulling the puppet strings?

It’s time to get back to the hype of things.

You can keep sitting in the corner pretending that you’ve lived a sheltered life, or you can get up and face the truth. You too are unsheltered with shattered dreams, tattered clothes and a dysfunctional heart.

Those are symptoms of being human. The ground rules of life have been pieced together by a dysfunctional disorder that was in place before you arrived on the scene.

You forgot that the beauty of your brokenness is the awesome sauce you need to get you to the next level. Every scar you have represents the climb you took to possess the land, take ownership and yell…THIS IS MINE!!!

If you haven’t taken ownership, you haven’t reached your full potential as a human being and that means you still have options.

There are plenty of ways to create yourself. You don’t have to know your next step, but you must take the next step.

Life is going to throw boulders at you, you must learn to catch them and align them to create your foundation. That’s the only way to become unstoppable in the face of adversity.

You have the power to walk this journey and figure things out along the way. Don’t miss your moment waiting on something that you already possess.

Today, I encourage you to go back and look at what you already have and…

Get back to the hype of things.

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

 

Emotions

Every road we take is filled with emotions. Some emotions take us on a detour to a place called failure and some emotions take us on a straight path to the mountain top of success.

The dilemma that most of us are facing these days is that, we’re currently on an emotional roller coaster and experiencing both roads at the same time.

I’d love to tell you that hell ain’t got a ride that we haven’t been on, but this current ride is presenting us with all of our joy and pain at every climb, dip, corner and turn. If you’re like me, you don’t know whether to raise your hands in victory or hold on tight from the turbulence.

The easiest thing for all us to do is jump off the detour and quit, but who would we be if we stopped now. What would happen to the people who are secretly watching and waiting for our next post, quote, transparent moment or business move?

Now you may not agree with method(s), but we have to acknowledge our emotions. We may not be able to pinpoint them all because they are not one big emotion, but they are a series of little things that have decided to stick together and appear big.

Here are 3 methods we must adopt when dealing with our emotions……

1. Acknowledge them and put them on notice. Let them know that you are aware that they are there…… Good morning Fear. Doubt you sure are extra vibrant today.  Pain, I see you’re still hanging on by a thread. You guys can play among yourselves if you like, but I won’t be joining the party.  (Just me, Not)

2. Recognize that they are part of the process. Our emotions build character and cause growth to take place in our lives. They will continue to put on a show, if you don’t learn to balance them out. Recognize that you won’t always be able to control them, but you must be able to discern why they have appeared on the landscape of your life and are interrupting the scene.

3. Understand that your emotions good or bad, always lead you to the fulfillment of your true potential. We have to deal with every emotional obstacle in order to get to our destiny. They are apart of a bigger plan to get what is inside of us on the outside for the world to see. If we ignore our emotions they will cause dis-ease in our lives that can lead to many other physical diseases that affect our emotional, mental, and physical state. (depression, stress, anxiety etc)

Don’t be afraid of your emotions. Embrace every detour and straight road you find yourself on. I guarantee you’re being led to a place of discovery that’s bigger than you imagined for yourself.

I’ll leave you with the words of Maya Angelou. ” There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you”

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

 

Impressionist

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired. Tired of seeing the same thing over and over again. Creativity is built from failure and you cannot be afraid to fail.

Your originality comes from your mistakes. You can’t mimic your way to success off the gestures of someone else. It is your job to innovate yourself and be the trailblazer you were born to be.

This world is after your uniqueness. If you’re not paying attention, it will convince you that what you’re good at isn’t valuable while stealing your creativity and imitating everything you do.

The stigmatization of your creativity is really praise gone wrong.

So let them talk, side eye and throw shades of flattery. These are the first signs that you’re doing something right.

I know it doesn’t feel good and more often than not, it sheds light on your doubts, fears and insecurities. Don’t let it break you down.

Rise up! You’ve made it through things that most people would have died from.

I have walked through things that I never believed I was ready for, but when I look back, I realize that I’ve gotten better while they were talking, watching and impersonating me.  So….

Stop squandering your own talents trying to impersonate someone else.

You’re a demonstration and You’ve been approved to be critiqued and looked upon.

Remember…….All the greats are impersonated. Own  your position!

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman