53% of Women are burned out. Let’s change that.

Mom, Aunt, Sister, Daughter, Cousin & Friend. These are just some of the names we call the women in our lives. As women, we have the unique power to speak life, give life and hold life in the power of our tongue, yet, 53% of Women in the U.S. say they are burned out. (Deloitte Report)

Are YOU one of them?

Burnout is not just about work life balance, but it’s about our overall well being. Over the last 2 years our nervous system has been assaulted on a daily basis, says (psychotherapist Bea Arthur), which in my opinion, has led our bodies into CRISIS mode, akastruggling, suffering, sick and can’t get well.

Understanding and knowing your body is not always easy when you’re running a business, juggling work, households, kids, aging parents and networking events during an ever present pandemic that has taken a toll on our emotional, mental and physical health.

We have to recognize that we have changed. We can’t keep up with pre-pandemic demands or methods. It just doesn’t work anymore. How we think, act, feel and show up in the world has changed.

The smallest tasks (such as getting dressed) is EXHAUSTING.  Our bodies aren’t getting enough oxygen to function properly. Anxiety & stress doesn’t allow us to take deep breaths. Not to mention that we are masked up, homebound and not spending enough time outdoors in nature.

Having the world at our fingertips, means that we are never alone and always connected, which in reality means that we are disconnected and have lost the true essence of who we are. 

WE must learn how to do life differently and that means we have to unlearn our conditioning. Remember the world has changed &  we have changed due to ever present Trauma. So we have to rediscover & reimagine who we are. We can’t continue to grow, evolve and break glass ceilings if we are running on empty and starting each day with a deficit from being burned out.

It’s time to build a simple habit that will take you out of overwhelm and allow you to take care of yourself and feel good doing it. 

That simple habit is called a TEA RITUAL.   A Tea Ritual allows you to:

• take a break
• get reconnected
• be present
• engage your senses
• support your body, mind, soul & spirit
• build a relationship with yourself
• mute life’s noises
• refuel, restore & reset
• feed yourself the right nutrients to nourish your body back to good health, hydration & happiness

Our bodies know what to do, it’s our job to give it the support it needs.

Our ME TIME blend is a reminder to create a space that’s personal for you to reconnect with yourself. It’s a relaxing blend that soothes and calms with the wonderful smells of Lavender, Mint and Eucalyptus.

Our RESTORE blend nourishes your body with all the right nutrients to bring your body out of crisis mode and back to good health, hydration and happiness. This blend is packed with vitamins A,B,C,K along with manganese, calcium, magnesium and more. 

Good health starts with good ingredients. We’ve done the work for you. Now all you have to do is order, brew and sip. It’s that simple.

When you take care of YOU, you show up in the world as your authentic self… aware, present, focused, relaxed and energized.

Stay Healthy & Stay Snobby

Cassandra

myteasnob.com

myteasnob@gmail.com

Own It

Own It… Your Value, Your Vision & Your Vibration

Own It… Your Worth, Your Wealth & Your Wisdom

In order to become… I, You , It, They , Them have to own every part of who we are. Some people know me as a Paralegal, some know me as a Business Woman, some know me as a Tea Curator, some know me as Coach and some know me as a Podcaster. It’s very rare that I introduce myself as all of them at once or at all. I have notches on my belt that I never speak about. Mainly, because I don’t want to perform or be asked a lot of questions, and besides the occasional imposter syndrome… I like to do things when I want to do them. It’s a flaw, some days it helps and some days it hinders, but I’m working on it.

However, in these last 4 weeks, I recognized that my next level and yours requires us to say YES to every part of who we are. We can’t expect people to accept us, when we don’t acknowledge ourselves.

What does that mean exactly?

You can’t remain one dimensional, when you’re really a 3-D movie with all the special effects.

Being secretly successful and expecting people to reverence you for who you are when you’re only presenting yourself in one way is PLAYED OUT.

In 2022, We have to be intentional about leveraging who we are to get to the position we need to be in. I got goals and dreams and I’m certain that you do to.

So ask yourself yourself the following questions:

What do I want?

In order to play an active roll in who you become, you must first know what you want. If you don’t know what you want, you won’t know what roll to play or what to ask for in order to get to where you’re going. Without this knowledge, you can’t determine your next level or know what to say YES to when an opportunity presents itself.

Now, You can remain who you think you are, because at this point, we are all who life made us to be, but you have a choice to become who you’re meant to be.

Make the investment

This may not be for everybody, but one thing that I’ve been doing is FASTING television the first 4 days of the week. (sun-wed) WHY, because I’m not where I want to be personally, professionally, financially or mentally. So I’m cutting out the garbage and feeding myself something to increase my life. On these days, I’m reading, being coached, sitting in silence, working on my finances, shifting my mindset etc.

I have 27 books to read this year and another 15 ready to go on audible to listen to while I’m in the car running errands. I have specific days for fulfilling and shipping orders, meetings and when to respond to people.

You can’t leverage your life and expect to reach your goals by way of netflix and chill. You have to get uncomfortable.

We are all battling something, however, you can decide to WIN. Are you ready to interrupt the life you’re living for the life you want?

If so… OWN IT!

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

Permission to Proceed

If I knew it was going to be this easy, I would’ve done it a long time ago. Yet, I don’t believe things become easy until you break down barriers in your mind and give yourself permission to proceed.

If you’re like me, you’ve spent months or years avoiding what you’ve wanted because the journey seemed unbearable alone. I’ve made plenty of journeys on behalf of others, however, this journey was about ME…so it was personal.

Oftentimes, we want others to experience what’s only meant for us. I know that might sound inspirational, but in no way shape or form is it transformational. (READ THAT AGAIN)

Giving someone space in your lane is like having a houseguest that has stayed past their expiration date. Their extended stay changes the dynamics of your house and chips away at your peace of mind.

In short, you’ve been hijacked by your own selflessness, which in turn is selfish because you delayed leaping and that has caused others to stall. Now you’re living on the surface wearing a brave face that masks your own expectations for the expectations of others.

The expectations of others, often traps us into building things that we don’t want and that causes us to be successfully bankrupt…reaching meaningless and unfulfilling goals personally and professionally. 

It’s time to be bold again and take action. This means that you have to take time to get to the root cause of your stagnation and unhappiness by identifying, embracing and transitioning to your authentic self and career path.

Don’t limit your options on who you are and who you’re supposed to be. For example, just because you’re a Lawyer doesn’t mean you have to spend your days in courtrooms arguing cases that are unfulfilling. Perhaps, being a Law Professor at a University will lead to a more fulfilling life. 

Learn to pivot your skills.

You nor your career are one dimensional. As a matter of fact, there are many levels to both, but you have to be willing to unpack them in order to unlock your full potential.

Below are 3 questions that will aid you in aligning your authentic self with your career path. Think these questions through, envision them and write them down. When you’re finished, you should be able to pinpoint what these questions have in common. Once you find common ground, It’s your responsibility to take things a step further and think about how you can use what you’ve discovered in a new and interesting way to chart a new path and help others solve their problems along the way.

1. What fulfills you?

2. What drives you?

3. What inspires you?

Are you surprised with your answer? Leave a comment below and subscribe for more posts like this one. 

Remember: Happiness is possible, but you must first know what makes you come alive.

Unapologetically, 

Ms. Spearman

Trust Who YOU Are

Don’t forfeit who you are because you’re in a low place. That place is DevelopingYOU.

There is a series of climbs that you have to go through to produce your Power Pitch.

You are still an influential waymaker that opens doors and shows others how to change the game.

Your sacrifices have been great, but in the end, they will help you to evolve and reinvent yourself.

You are what resilience looks like.

It’s time for you to get rid of the outdated things you have laying around and pursue what you really CRAVE. It’s high time you show the world your…

Creative Raw Vulnerable Authentic Edge

YOU are a Total Experience and a Threat to someone else’s agenda.

Trust Who YOU Are everything has been set motion.

Unapologetically

Ms. Spearman

This Too Shall Pass

This too shall pass,  Now would be great!  That’s one hell of Quote for a Pastor to have, but there it sat on the shelf of my uncle’s office.  I chuckled a little at the irony of it all. However, it stuck out to me like a sore thumb and I’ve been rehearsing it in my head for days.

Why you ask, because isolation, solitary confinement and the deep dark hole are places that we all have been and must experience, if we are to fully develop into who we are meant to be. Instead, we rush through the process and downplay the journey as well as the lessons that we are supposed to learn. 

Rushing to or through anything is never a good idea. Especially when it causes you to miss the mark. Having a blurred vision will never produce a desired outcome. I mean you can get close, hell, you may even touch it, but it won’t provide you with what you would have had, had you taken the time to embrace that thing that you wanted to pass sooner rather than later. 

For months I’ve been silently chanting Better and not Bitter as I listened to the chatter of the world without so much as an interjection. While I wasn’t in a position to talk, I was able to observe first hand all the things that made me go hmmm up close and personal..

There is something about being hidden and exposed at the same time.

This too shall pass, now would be great…..has opened my eyes and caused me to embrace my circumstances and ask what’s this supposed to teach me instead of asking why is this happening to me.  Changing the way I looked at every situation, gave me a better outcome no matter how dim things looked. 

 

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

 

I Lost, but I’m Winning!

I lost some precious and valuable things that caused me to stumble. I’m on the hunt for those things because I believe that something’s had to be lost….in order for me to see how much value I truly possess.

Losing challenged my vision, voice and everything that I thought I knew.

I had to change my mindset and deal with all the head trauma that came at the expense of what I could not see.

However, losing allowed me to tap into my true potential by putting the pieces of what was left after loss together.

That picture alone, allowed me to regain my power, set some boundaries and walk away from things and people that no longer added value to me.

Everything may look the same, but Nothing is what it used to be.

You see my loss…set me apart, opened my eyes and showed me who I’m not, so that I can become who I’m meant to be.

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

Vision

Everything starts with a Vision.

Vision is the one thing that we all have. It’s built in. You never have to look outside yourself to experience or explore the possibilities it has to offer.

Vision is the key to your value. It’s your roadmap, your confidence, your guiding light, your heart song, your liberator, your motivator, the reason why you exist.

It’s your journey to significance and the one thing that inspires again and again.

But Vision comes with a costly twist that most aren’t willing to pay because Visions real job is to show you who you are not.

It separates you from the pack, It removes you from the wild, places you in a cocoon like a caterpillar and forces you to unbecome in order to become.

Real Vision is engraved in your heart, etched in your mind and planted in your soul.

It’s that ray of hope, that breath of fresh air, that ounce of can do, that voice that says get back up, but most of all… Vision is your opportunity to manifest the gifts and talents that the creator placed upon you in the earth for all the world to see.

Chapter

What would you name this chapter of your life?

That’s the one question that I ask each and every guest on my podcast.(The Voices You Have Not Heard)

Out of 47 episodes, I’ve heard everything from Freedom to struggle. It’s important to name the chapters of our lives and use them as a roadmaps to see how far we’ve come.

2018 has brought me many chapters. I’ve had loss, freedom, sacrifice, peace, happiness, joy, loss.2, loss.3, daylight, more, silence, bare with me, you can’t be serious, this is not real life, oh my god, ain’t nobody got time for this, not again, not today, I can’t be responsible for that, I got this, I don’t got this, I bet I don’t, help, nope, this is that BS right here, I no longer care, really, I made it, chance, change, transition, listen, transform, I warned you and finally…. RESET.

RESET is about…

Restructuring your thoughts
Extracting the old thoughts
Stimulating the mind to think new thoughts
Equipping yourself for change
Transforming your life through every transition

So if you didn’t finish well in 2018, here are a few things to think about as you enter into 2019

1. Remember why you started. When you feel the feelings that are tied to your goal, your energy will shift to align with that goal.

2. Get clarity. Once you have clarity, you can lock it in. It’s important that you decide to hit your goal. It doesn’t matter how much doubt and fear you have, when you can see your end goal you can keep going. Your Pivots, detours, and scenic routes are planned for you to avoid major distractions. Trust the process.

3. Rewrite your vision. It’s important that you layout exactly how you want to execute your vision. There are many ways to accomplish this goal. It’s your job to be consistent and be aware of what you say and how you say it. Words are more important than your media outlet.

4. Take inventory of your pieces. Fragments and glimpses make up who we are. We have to be willing to take a look at what we already have. Taking inventory requires that we get silent and listen in the silence instead of controlling the silence. Turning your brain off and allowing your heart to speak will bring your pieces together and allow peace to resurface in your situation to see the bigger picture.

5. Look for reminders. Who are you when you’re focused? What does being focused feel and look like when you’re in your zone and doing meaningful and fulfilling things?

6. Redirect your focus. Inspiration can come from within us or outside of us. When it comes, act upon it. Everything won’t make sense right away, but you must follow your focus. These are the moments that will change the trajectory of our lives and lives of those around us.

Every chapter makes us who we are. Take time to reflect on the pages of your chapters as you move forward in life.

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

Spillage

We are all designed to leak our gifts and talents. However, we often keep ourselves sealed up and that prevents others from experiencing the true essence of who we are.

We must realize that we are a costly contamination. Most people want to prevent contamination, but in this case, we must allow it to ooze out into the atmosphere and leave a residue that changes the lives of the people we come in contact with.

If we continue to stay sealed up and contain the spillage, our end result will only provide us with more closed doors and lack.

Our spillage is our demonstration in the earth and the missing link to someone elses problems.

It’s high time we empty ourselves into the atmosphere and allow our spillage to connect us to the next level of open doors.

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman

Without Exception

Everyone starts at the beginning.  From the moment of release we are in a race. You and I had to beat out all the other potentials that were fighting to become at the same time. By the grace of God we made it and we’ve been winning races ever since.

Today is no different.

You’ve been released to blaze a trial that’s never been walked before. You aren’t the first trailblazer in the world. All the greats started right where you are.

Dazed, confused, and overwhelmed, yet filled with potential, power and possibilities. You’re not exempt.

If they did it, so can you!

Unapologetically,

Ms. Spearman